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    On Thursday the 27th August 2009 there will be a Ceremony of Remembrance, or more accurately, a Buddhist '100 Day Ceremony' recognising the 100th day since Steve's premature death.

    Steve 'Rolyshark' Rowlands was a Moderator at Thailand-UK, a popular member and a very good friend to many - both here and in Thailand. Steve's funeral service was held on 1st June 2009 in Chesterfield followed by cremation.

    Unfortunately Steve's longterm partner, Noy, was unable to get to the UK to attend Steve's funeral because of the short amount of time available to organise a UK visa. In accordance with Steve's wishes his ashes are now in Thailand and Noy has organised the 100 Day Ceremony.

    The ceremony will be held at Noy's Shop. This is located next to Max's Condotel, Pattaya 3rd Road, Soi 14, Pattaya. Noy and Steve's family have issued an open invitation to all members here or to those who knew Steve. All are very welcome. For those who wish to attend but are unsure of these directions please feel free to post below or send a PM to ddwjg (Dave) who is happy to meet centrally beforehand and from there guide you to Noy's.

    The monks, or in Noy's words 'the Buddhas' will be arriving at 10.00 on 27th August, to join those guests who are in attendance. I would suggest therefore that anyone intending to attend should arrive by, say, 9:45.

    Following the Thai Buddhist tradition, the monks will pray and make various chants to Steve's ashes. A symbolic 'string of wool' will run through the hands of the chanting monks to make direct contact with the Steve's remains. These chants and prayers are meant to invite Steve's spirit to follow a path to heaven for a new and better life. The ceremony is expected to continue for approximately one hour.

    The next stage of proceedings will be feeding and eating with the monks. Noy is preparing Steve's favourite dishes which is likely to include Tom Yum Gung, Laab Moo, Pla Tu and Nam Prik. Noy is being helped by all her fellow traders and neighbours both before and on the day of the ceremony. The traders will be closing their businesses as a sign of respect.

    When the ceremony is over, Noy will be dividing Steve's ashes in two. Half will be scattered at sea, at a favourite spot of Steve's "where the sea will keep him cool" and the other half will be interred at the local Temple in a small stupa, on which will be a photograph of Steve.

    I understand the video Steve made entiled The Death Video may also be shown at some point in the day.

    At this point I would like to publicly thank Dave (ddwjg) on behalf of myself, Thailand-UK and especially on behalf of Steve's family for all his kind help and efforts behind the scenes. Your efforts are greatly appreciated.
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    How did it go today Dave ?

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    WolfySteve, I was just about to post this.

    The ceremony was act for act, as described in an earlier post by Tobias. I have already sent this as a PM to Tobias, but I think he is away again.

    Unfortunately I was the only 'non-Thai' in attendance, due to many, who sent their apologies, having prior commitments, they could not break.

    There was however, a 'congregation' of about 50 people which was nice. It was lovely weather, with a nice cooling breeze.The monks arrived just before 10am, and were nine in number. They sat in typical 'lotus position', on a long,low platform, facing the congregation. They began a series of buddhist chants, whilst holding a single thread that was wound round the urn containing Steve's ashes, and a large picture of Steve, which was positioned behind the urn. Many of the congregation knew the words of these chants, and accompanied the monks. This service is to send Steve's spirit on to its next life, and marks the end of the 'official' grieving period.

    All those that attended were very supportive of Noy, and very respectful of Steve's remembrance.

    One thing that tickled me, and would have tickled Steve also, was, during the chanting by the monks, I recognised Steve's name amongst the Thai words, with a typical Thai pronounciation. " Mister Steeb Rowlan " I think he would have giggled at that.

    Once the service was complete, food of many styles was presented to the monks, and they were transferred to tables where they proceeded to eat their fill. It was a veritable banquet. When they had eaten their fill, all the congregation were invited to eat. It is considered a great honour to eat with the monks.

    The distribution of the ashes, as per Tobias' previous post, was being done later, in a very personal ceremony for Noy and her family.

    Noy's friend who transported Steve's 'remains' from the UK was not given his 'Death Video' to bring, so that was not shown. The pity is Noy has not seen it yet, and we all have. Steve's parents are bringing it with them when they come in November.

    Altogether though, it was a very moving experience, and Nee, and I are happy to have been there, to give our support.

    Dave.

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    A very nice report, well done Dave

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    As a follow up, to the report above. After some hectic PMs and phone calls last night(Thai time) initially involving myself, and Lee, then Lee and Paul(Maokaang), a DVD has been formatted by Paul, with great difficulty due to the original format of the 'Death Video', which is now playable on a normal DVD player.

    Paul has mailed this to myself, and I will present it to Noy on Sunday, courtesy of Thailand-UK.

    Three cheers and a round of applause for Lee and Paul.

    Dave.

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    with great difficulty due to the original format of the 'Death Video'
    I wouldn't describe it as difficult, but yes, it's now a DVD.
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    Nice to see the effort being put in to get these things arranged for Noy.

    Well done to all involved in the arrangements
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    ditto above, well done

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    Originally posted by ddwjg:
    As a follow up, to the report above. After some hectic PMs and phone calls last night(Thai time) initially involving myself, and Lee, then Lee and Paul(Maokaang), a DVD has been formatted by Paul, with great difficulty due to the original format of the 'Death Video', which is now playable on a normal DVD player.

    Paul has mailed this to myself, and I will present it to Noy on Sunday, courtesy of Thailand-UK.

    Three cheers and a round of applause for Lee and Paul.

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    Dave, I'll catch up with you on Sunday.
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    Three cheers and a round of applause for Lee and Paul.

    Dave.
    Congrats to all and you Dave

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    Originally posted by ddwjg:
    ... The ceremony was act for act, as described in an earlier post by Tobias. I have already sent this as a PM to Tobias, but I think he is away again.
    Indeed I was Dave, got back home late last night and have the pleasure of being at home .... for a full 7 days before I leave again

    Many thanks for the report of the ceremony, I will make sure Steve's family learn of the day's events.

    Originally posted by ddwjg:
    ... Noy's friend who transported Steve's 'remains' from the UK was not given his 'Death Video' to bring, so that was not shown. The pity is Noy has not seen it yet, and we all have. Steve's parents are bringing it with them when they come in November.
    I think Steve's mum and dad are wanting to present a copy personally. At the funeral itself the whole service at the crematorium was recorded for Noy and hopefully this too will be presented to her when the Rowland's visit.
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