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    I don't want to make this too long but March 2021 my wife who I am now seperated from went back to Thailand with my 2 children who are 10 and 8, both raised all life here.

    Before going back I signed something she told me was just so she could leave the country with them with my permission, I questioned is this anything to do with giving her custody or control of the children which she assured me it was not.

    I understood after being here 11 years and then 2 after me and her broke up she was extremely depressed and missed family so I did it because I did still love her, she broke up with me.

    I requested a few things before signing which she agreed to all.

    1. She will buy me a return flight at least once a year as It is her putting me in the position were I don't get to see the kids and I told her there is no way I could afford to do it myself so if I agree and sign I want this guarantee, she said absolutely fair.

    2. When I come every year I will take a month off work with no pay so I will pay my own supplies, food ect but would need a place to stay as I could not afford a hotel and she said no problem I can stay with her.

    She has recently said she will no longer let me stay with her but will pay for a 1 bed flat for the month which is frustrating because I want to be staying with the kids at their own home but to avoid arguments I just accept this.

    She has not said she is not going to get me the flights but it has been nearly a full year since last March and anytime I ask for a rough time just to I can let the work know she just says I don't know, avoids any convo always too busy to talk and just seems to be making out that she can't do it, she recently went on holiday in Thailand and has been doing things that make me believe she can and I am just really worried and would like to know what legal routes I can go down if this goes on beyond a reasonable point.

    I am trying to be very understanding she has only been back since March and obviously had to get set up and get things for the kids rooms ect but it's getting a bit ridiculous now. Her brother owns two houses so she does not need to pay for that she essentially was given a free house, I am sure she will pay him towards it but it's not the typical situation like she has pointed out when I was concerned about the kids and she reassured me she would be fine because of things like this, as if to say I only need to pay what I can towards it to help him.

    What should I do ?

    I should state I didn't get the two things I asked for in writing and I didn't read through the thing she asked me to sign I just asked is this something that means I am signing over parental rights to her, which she advised me it was absolutely not. I was under the impression because of Covid she just needed my permission from them to fly outside of the UK because me and her were not together and both parents had to approve it for the children's safety.
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    Dis, welcome back! I can’t believe it’s been so long since you were active here. Time flies.

    Initial question, in what language was the form you were asked to sign?
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      Hello again Tobias, it was in English. I am not actually sure what it was I didn't read through it I just asked her questions about it.
      Last edited by Tom & Nok; 9 Jan 2022, 07:45. Reason: Deletion of unnecessary requote of whole of immediately preceding post.
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      • #4
        Welcome back Dis. Sorry to hear about your troubles.

        Looks like you've been played mate. As the saying goes, how do you tell when a women is lying, her lips move.
        If you're offended by any assistance I give, it says far more about you than it does me.

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          Hello again, I have requested she send me a copy to read through it but as I asked clear questions regarding it and made it clear that I would only sign as long as it's nothing that gives parental control, would that not be an issue for her if she has lied about it even though I should have read through it. At the time I just assumed it was because of covid she required both parents to agree on children leaving the country for the safety aspect of it.
          Last edited by Tom & Nok; 9 Jan 2022, 18:44. Reason: Deletion of unnecessary requote of whole of immediately preceding post.
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          • #6
            So you signed an agreement without reading it during a period where you were separating and allowed your wife to move to Thailand with your kids and now she appears to have decided she will not honour an agreement with no corroborating paperwork.

            Sorry at this point you need to get legal advice as you will struggle to persuade a Thai court to support you.

            As for her dishonesty no comment but she is in a much stronger position unless she moves back to the UK.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Tobias View Post
              Dis, welcome back! I can’t believe it’s been so long since you were active here. Time flies.

              Initial question, in what language was the form you were asked to sign?
              I got the copy and I was wrong it was actually in Thai, does that change anything Tobias ?
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              • #8
                Originally posted by Disinfatuation View Post
                I got the copy and I was wrong it was actually in Thai...
                My twopenceworth for what it's worth, you signed a document it is up to you to know what you are signing, be it in Thai or English. Whatever it said she has the evidence to say you agreed to it.

                Hopefully Mr T might have better (and more knowledgeable) response.
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